Hustling Part 3 - Understanding basic male psychology - The Override Switch

(previous posts #1 here and #2 here)
The human brain is an amazing machine.  Not only can it process a metric shit-ton of information at any given time, store a million metric shit-tons of information indefinitely, and predict with a fair degree of success what will happen in the future, it can also warp reality entirely.  Or rather, we can make our perception of reality something entirely different, if we want to badly enough.

"What is this asshole babbling about?" you're probably asking.  "Get to the goddamn point, you verbose motherfucker!"

Fair enough.  When a customer is in the club, ready to spend some money to get some personal attention from you, our friendly motivated dancer, he has already on some level engaged the reality warping powers of his own brain.  Or rather, his dick has.

You see, all males, hetero or homo or bi-mo or poly-mo, have a love/hate relationship with their penises.  Oftentimes, what they want and what their penis wants match up.  Those times are the happy, fun, FUCKYEAH party times, where good boning is had and everybody wins. But just as often, their penis wants something that, intellectually, they know they don't want.  If it were simply a case of "Downstairs Head wants to fuck this girl from the bar, Upstairs Head knows she's dating a friend," the Upstairs Head would overrule the Downstairs Head.  And it usually does.  Most guys aren't out and out dickbags who will fuck anything that is present and willing.  In their minds, their conscious, brainy brain rational thinking thoughts, they know what is right and wrong, and generally choose to act accordingly in a right manner.

The problem is, the Downstairs Head has an Override Switch.

This, my dear friends, is THE biggest problem with male misbehavior.  It's why men cheat, and seek out new partners constantly, and why there is any money to be made in the strip club at all.  I'm not saying that men don't want to do those things and that their dick makes them do it.  It's way more complicated than that.  Men, deep down, on a genetic level, want to run around fucking anything not nailed down.  Their intellects, the higher functioning parts of their brain that understand things like culture, morals, cause & effect, act as a restraining force on their pure animalistic urges, and general keep them in check.  This isn't unique to sex drive either, as most people don't pig out on fatty salty sugary foods all day every day.  Same thing with fucking.  In both cases, we know it's not good for us in multiple ways, physically, emotionally, financially.  Furthermore, we don't always have access to either fucking or fatty fatty fat foods, so it's that much easier to resist.

And here is where the Override Switch comes in.  When the dick senses that it is in a situation with a particularly good chance of fucking something, it starts to fuck with the underlying reality the brain is operating on, like switching the TV from Cable mode to DVD mode.  The brain will still try and change channels, but all it's getting is Chapters and Extras.  The dick is changing reality such that not only is fucking this particular something it has a chance to not a bad idea, but that such a chance to fuck something may NEVER COME ALONG AGAIN, oh god, it's NOW or NEVER, holy shit, FUCK THAT THING!  And here's the worst part.  The higher functioning part of the brain is still working like normal.  It still knows that it's a terrible idea, that there will be other things to fuck, and that this particular thing to fuck may even be there later.  It knows when it's a Bad thing to do, a Morally Bad thing.  But the dick has fucked up the whole program.  It has overridden the higher functioning brain, and handed the controls over to the the simple lizard brain, the Id, fight or flight, simple animal part of the brain.  And the Id, it doesn't know that the dick has warped reality in favor of fucking.  It's like taking a small child into an underground parking garage, turning out the lights, then yelling "OH GOD, WEREWOLVES!  Run, Jimmy!  Run for your LIFE!"  Little Jimmy doesn't know werewolves don't exist.

That's what the dick does when it hits the Override Switch.  It's quite similar to when, pre-girly time, (that is to say, pre Shark Week,) when you see that giant blackberry scone at Starbucks, and you know, you KNOW, "Fuck, I can't have that, it's like 1100 calories, mostly butter fat, if I eat that, I'm fucked for the rest of the day."  But your womb is all "OMG SCONE MUST HAVE PUT IT IN THE TUMMY NOW!!!"  And what usually happens?  Yeah, you're wiping scone crumbs off your shirt as you get out of the car.

And here's the deal.  Both of those Override Switches serve a valid, necessary biological evolutionary purpose.  For women of childbearing age, if they were about to ovulate, and possibly begin to carry a child, any and all calories were good.  Our hunter-gatherer forebears weren't exactly rolling in an excess of food, and every calorie mattered.  So, any way to nudge our behavior into consuming more calories to support a possible fetus was to be encouraged.  This is why our taste buds developed to like sweet, savory, and salty foods, as those foods in nature were generally the most calorie dense, and also the rarest.  If you had fruit, you ate it, period, because who knew what you'd have to eat tomorrow.

Same thing with the dick.  A man didn't know if a sabre toothed armadillo or a dire-badger was going to make lunch out of him tomorrow, so he had to take any chance to impregnate a female he was given, to ensure his genetic legacy lived on even if he was turned into wolf-chow.  
Now, that primitive survival drive is still present, but the world we inhabit is not the same.  We now have a reasonable expectation of acquiring food tomorrow, so we don't need to cram as many calories in as we can right the fuck now.  Similarly, since no large predatory animals are likely to kill us, we have the reasonable expectation that we will have the opportunity to mate in the future, and so do not have to engage in reproduction with just any old partner as soon as they are available.  But our dicks and wombs don't know that.  They still think we're in caveman times.  And when they can, they drag our asses back, whether we want to go or not.

And so, dear reader, you should have guessed (like 5 paragraphs ago) where I'm going with this.  When a customer is engaged with you, our lovely, entrancing, sexy, persuasive dancer, his intellect is telling him "Dude, you're not getting it in.  She's only acting this way because of your money.  You are not going to fuck this girl, and if you give her your money, all that is going to happen is a case of blue balls and regret tomorrow when you look at your bank statement."  But the dick is saying "FUCK YEAH, this chick wants it!  Damn the torpedoes, full speed ahead!"  Override switch engaged, money doled out, blue balls and regret delivered.

And THAT is the whole point.  He's already in the club, he wants to have his Override Switch engaged, and now here you are.  In some ways, the Switch is already on.  He's at the club in the first place.  His brain already knows that the club is a bad idea, that he's going to waste money, and potentially do something he'll regret later.  But Mr. Dick has convinced him that it's not a bad idea, and here's where it gets really tricky.  Here's where a man's character comes into play the most, in any situation involving the Override Switch;

He has a choice to fight the Switch, or to accept it.  And really, when reality has gone all topsy turvy on you, when every fibre of your being, every nerve in your body is telling you something is right, and only your intellect is saying no, that is some deep, heavy, intense conflict.  It takes a strong motherfucker to use his intellect to overrule every other part of his mind and body and turn away.  It is sooooo much easier to give in.  Most of you wants to, so it can't be THAT bad, right?

We can convince ourselves of anything, especially when it makes it easier to do the things we want to.  So, most men don't fight the Override Switch, not for long.  Most even help push it all the way on.

And you, dear dancer, can make sure he pushes it without a moment's hesitation.  You become the ready excuse, the easy out, the primary reason his good sense got shoved into the backseat and his dick took the wheel.  It's so much easier after the fact to say "Wow, that dancer really worked me over, goddamn, she is good." than to say "I acted in a way where my dick, not my brain, was in control."  And thus, it's way easier for them to justify to themselves why they come back to see you the next time.  You're just too pretty, too sexy, they can't resist.  They've given up control, given up choice, and thus given up responsibility.  Intellectually they know what's really going on, but they've made their actions more palatable to themselves by going along with it, rather than being conflicted about their own desires and actions.

So, the work is mostly done by the time he is in the club.  By approaching him in an open manner, reading his cues, and providing some genuine seeming companionship, you are non-verbally communicating that you are there to help him push the Override Switch to the full "on" position, for which he will be grateful, and will thus reward with fat stacks.

Thus concludes the introduction to Basic Male Psychology.  But, rest assured, this is merely the tip of the iceberg.  More than any other factor, more than wardrobe, makeup, dancing skill, anything, understanding how a customer thinks, and more importantly WHY he thinks how he thinks, is key to making a lot of money, predictable money, with minimal effort (and minimal blowjobs in the champagne room.)  As such, expect more posts on the topic, getting more or less specific on a given topic.