Why Boyfriends and Baby Daddies aren't allowed in the Club

This is a relatively short post, but it's about a topic that sometimes gets glossed over.  At most clubs, the boyfriend/husband/baby daddy/pimp/ride home is not allowed inside the club, or if they are allowed in, it is usually only at the very tail end of the shift, so that they may inform the staff (bouncer, manager) and/or the dancer that their ride is here, and they usually can't hang around tipping.  They DEFINITELY cannot drink.  Furthermore, if the B/H/BD/P/RH appears to be drunk or high, most clubs have the policy of not letting the dancer ride home with the BHBDPRH.

There are a couple of reasons why this is the case.  First and foremost, guys (and/or girls, not to be biased towards heteros only) are only human, and thus susceptible to jealousy.  Your SigOther sees you hustling on some random guy, doing your, you know, JOB, and gets butthurt.  Now, they may cause a scene right then and there (especially if they have been drinking.)  They may not, delaying drama (and potential fight, or even worse, abuse) until you two are alone.  Either way, that shit is bad for business.

Secondly, even if your BHBDPRH is hella chill, and not going to cause any drama, often times they become a time sink, because hey, why wouldn't you want to hang out with them AND be working at the same time.  Best of both worlds, right?  Well, if they are paying you with money that isn't your own, then sure, why not.  But otherwise, they are eating up time that could be spent more productively hustling customers.  You know, making money.  Because this is, you know, your job.

Third reason is simple, but brutal.  Sometimes your asshole of a BHBDPRH is a scumbag, and gets dances from other dancers.  You may have an open, polygamous, anything-goes relationship, but man oh man does that send some strong signals all the way around, to you, to the other dancers, and to any customers clued in to whats going on.  Signals that you aren't taking the job seriously, and that you're willing to let your real life affect your work.

And I know, this seems like one of those rules that gets bypassed, bent, or outright broken, that the staff have to say to avoid legal liability.  And there is definitely some truth to that.  Another rule along the same line is dancers who are intoxicated cannot drive themselves home.  Another is that dancers cannot leave with a customer.  We all know those two things happen all the damn time.  But usually, there is a rhyme and reason to when the rules are enforced, and when a blind eye is turned... and it's not always because the bouncer got tipped to look the other way.

For example, say the boyfriend/husband/baby daddy/pimp/ride home is a looooong time regular of the club, well before he became the  BHBDPRH.  At that point, he is a known quantity, and will probably not cause any drama.  And because relationships that start at the club tend to have a short shelf life, when the relationship invariably ends, he will still be a regular, most likely.

Other times, the staff simply don't know that a customer is a BHBDPRH until the dancer is getting into his car at the end of a shift.  Or maybe, for whatever reason, they don't care about that dancer in particular.  Maybe they DID get tipped to look the other way.  The point is, it doesn't matter why the rules are or are not enforced, because it's in your best interest to follow this rule.  Hell, it shouldn't even have to be a rule, it should be common sense.  Don't have people from your personal life up in the club, they will waste your time, cause drama, and cost you MONEY.  

Now, I know there are always exceptions.  Keep in mind, this is a general kind of thing.  And I know you may be tempted to say "But Nunya, MY BHBDPRH is DIFFERENT."  And I'm sure you believe he is.  But it really boils down to, if he is or isn't different, why take that chance that having him around will fuck up your money, or even your relationship?  Take my advice, and keep Real Life and Work separate.